
THIS IS AN IMPORTANT ONE! Don’t ignore this in your writing!
i’m gonna disagree with that first one. it depends on your viewpoint character’s self-awareness and thought process. different characters react differently, and some of them may be best depicted using these emotion words.
i’ll give an example. idk how illustrative it’ll be for folks who don’t know my oc’s, but here are three different guys’ thoughts in reaction to their lover having done something mean:
- bel kadros: ouch, that really hurt. i’m honestly pretty ticked off right now, but i’m not going to let this escalate. just have to keep reminding myself it’s not personal.
- kastor auberlane: this is my own damn fault for expecting a mara to be anything but a capricious monster. i need to stop trusting him. it only gets me hurt.
- jack saturday: wow, jacob’s being a little bitch. fuck you so much, buddy, you wanna fight? yeah, that’s what i thought, you keep walking. asshole.
i chose these three because of their different awareness levels. bel is analytical, very gentle, very calm, and knows his lover has been through the wringer, psychologically. he doesn’t blame anyone, he just wants to keep from adding to the problem pile. kastor is inward-turned, a loner, and holds grudges, but he’s besotted; he wouldn’t change mikah, but kicks himself for putting up with him. jack is a fun-loving sociopath who mostly thinks of others in terms of what they can do for him, so he doesn’t even think about the source of conflict; he’s just mad now, and he’ll forgive just as quickly the moment he wants a blowie.
of course, if you’re not giving your pov character’s internal monologue, yeah, you’d rely on actions and appearance. but if you enjoy writing from inside their head, go on and use those emotion words, as long as the character’s mature or honest enough to think them.


